I can't exactly say how life with two is going, since we have had the constant (and greatly appreciated) help of both of our parents, graciously stepping in these past few days. So far, Cub's response to Naomi has been good, if not a little better than expected. He has jealous moments, of course, and we make it a point to both spend alone time with him when we can, switching between each child to try and keep things balanced (for example, if I take bath time, my husband takes bed time). While we were still in the hospital, we asked Cub if he wanted to give Naomi a hug. He took one look at her and shyly stepped back. And that was okay with us. We've always agreed that Cub never has to touch anyone or be touched by anyone he doesn't want to, including family (he usually loves hugs or kisses, but you get my point). A high-five or knuckles ("knucks!") is sufficient. So, when he decided he didn't want to touch Naomi, that was fine by us. She was completely new to him, after all--a stranger, basically!
So, over the past few days, it's been so sweet to watch him come around. It started with him shyly waving at his sister and saying, "Hi, Nomi!" in his sweet little voice. Then he decided that, while he himself wasn't going to give his sister a kiss, his toys were, so Naomi received little kisses from Cub's various toy dolphins, turtles, and trucks. And then today I asked Cub if he wanted to give Naomi a little kiss.
And melt my heart, he did. He toddled right over to her, bent down, and pecked her cheek.
I'm so glad we didn't force him to try to "love" his sister. It's wonderful to watch him become more familiar with her. I think we've realized that, besides the obvious challenges that come with adding another baby to the family, this will only be a big deal if we make it one. We love this sweet time.
Tomorrow is my first official day with both kids alone. I've made a to-do list, to keep my head from spinning, and one of the items on the list is Number Four on my Mighty Summer List: Go to Target with both children.
We need milk and toilet paper.
I might also buy a sling. I have a Baby Bjorn and I've borrowed a sling from my friend, but Target had some that looked comfy. What do y'all prefer--baby carrier or sling? Just curious. I know I love the Bjorn, but I've never used a sling.
Anyway. So, as you read this, think of me scrambling around with both kids. Hopefully I will at least put on some mascara. :)
Either way, this is a blessed time.
So bring on the craziness. I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Have a lovely day!